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Bron      Peter Tromp
Datum  01/01/07
 

Bob Geldof, vader van een nieuwe Britse revolutie

Irish Examiner - Door Dan Buckley - Vertaling uit het Engels naar het Nederlands door Peter Tromp - 2005/01/03

http://jurlex-ouderschap-nl.blogspot.com/2006/10/96.html

Foto 31/12/2006 Fathers4Justice flag is still flying proud for all to see over Victoria BC Canada

 

DE WOEDE van de Britse middenklasse over de manier waarop familierechtbanken in Groot-Brittannië vaders behandelen, verandert het debat over de zorg voor de kinderen na een scheiding in een nieuw centraal verkiezingsthema, volgens Bob Geldof. Geldof, die in Groot-Brittannië voorop gaat in de campagne voor gelijke rechten voor vaders, stelt dat een reusachtig en politiek actief kiezersdeel van boze ouders fundamentele veranderingen in de wet opeist.

De controverse over het falen van het systeem van familierechtspraak in Groot-Brittannië is de laatste maanden sterk verscherpt. Campagnevoerders gekleed als superhelden uit beeldverhalen, met inbegrip van Spiderman en Batman, hebben protestacties gehouden op de Tower Bridge (Brug van de Toren), het dak van het Britse Koninklijke Hof van Justitie (Royal Courts of Justice at the Strand, London) en het balkon van het Buckingham paleis.

Één rechter, de edelachtbare Munby, gaf vernietigende kritiek op de Britse familierechtspraak, en stelde publiekelijk dat hij zich letterlijk doodschaamde over de behandeling van een vader aan wie alle contact met een kind nu al twee jaar werd ontzegd.

„Dit is gevaarlijk voor de overheid,“ stelde dhr. Geldof, die zelf ook een dergelijke rechtbankstrijd over de zorg en verblijfplaats van zijn drie kinderen met zijn vroegere vrouw, Paula Yates heeft moeten doormaken. „Het gaat hier om een substantieel kiezersdeel van zowel vrouwen als mannen. Niet alleen vaders, maar ook grootmoeders, nieuwe partners en tantes, worden erdoor getroffen. Evenveel vrouwen als mannen schieten me op straat over deze kwestie aan. Dit komt keihard aan in alle families,” stelde hij.„De huidige familiewetgeving heeft geen hart of ziel. Het is koud vuilnis. Zij is fundamenteel en ten diepste onjuist.”

„De ontwikkelingen in de samenleving hebben deze wetgeving totaal achterhaald gemaakt. Deze wetgeving is zo idioot, zo brutaal in zijn implementatie en regelrecht discriminerend tegen de vader."

Dhr. Geldof zei verder: „Er is geen enkele hoop ter wereld dat u krijgt wat u wilt. Het is al een hopeloos gevecht voordat u er zelfs maar aan begint. De meeste mannen wordt daarbij verteld dat zij zich daarbij maar neer te leggen hebben, maar dat wordt niet langer geaccepteerd. Dat is ook goed zichtbaar aan de groei van het aantal activistengroepen.” „De manier waarop ik en alle mannen in het algemeen door wet en rechtspraak behandeld worden, is werkelijk met absolute minachting. Het was echt vernederend."

Dhr. Geldof zei dat door ervoor te zorgen dat vaders het recht op gelijkwaardige toegang tot de kinderen werd gegeven ook helpt bij het indammen van de vloed aan scheidingen, waardoor nu de helft van alle huwelijken in Groot-Brittannië stuklopen.

Hij voorspelde dat de wet binnen de komende decennia zou veranderen, om een 50 / 50 verdeling van zorg voor en contact met de kinderen tot de norm te maken - overeenkomstig de huidige situatie in Denemarken, Zweden en sommige staten van de V.S.

Volgens de onlangs gevormde groep Fathers4Justice, verliezen elke dag ongeveer 100 nieuwe kinderen in Groot-Brittannië alle contact met hun vaders doordat de omgangs- en contactregelingen van rechtbanken door saboterende moeders openlijk aan hun laars gelapt worden. Een als Santa verkleedde campagnevoerder van Fathers4Justice ketende zich uit protest hiertegen onlangs kort vóór Kerstmis nog vast aan een pijler van de centrale poort van het Buckingham Paleis. Die stunt volgde op het incident van eerder dit jaar toen een Fathers4Justice actievoerder als Batman verkleed het terrein van het paleis wist te penetreren en tot naast het centrale paleisbalkon klom.

De Britse Labour regering heeft nu een Groenboek beloofd om het familierechtssysteem te verbeteren, met inbegrip van plannen om ouders te helpen hun geschillen buiten de rechtbanken om op te lossen.Verder zijn er plannen om moeders aan te pakken die hun vroegere partners valselijk beschuldigen van huiselijk geweld.

„Huiselijk geweld is zonder twijfel een zeer ernstig probleem... maar er zijn ook sommige gevallen, en ik weet niet hoeveel, waarin beschuldigingen van huiselijk geweld misbruikt worden als excuus om contact met de kinderen te beperken,” stelt Lord Filkin, de minister voor Constitutionele Zaken, die voor de Britse familierechtspraak verantwoordelijk is. Het Groenboek van de Labourregering zou voorstellen bevatten om in een vroeg stadium „te diagnostiseren“ of een beschuldiging van huiselijk geweld wel gegrond is. Terwijl oprechte beschuldigingen van huiselijk geweld stevig moeten worden aangepakt, moet er ook actie genomen worden tegen moeders die vals beschuldigen.

Deze ontwikkeling volgt op de uitkomsten van een gerechtelijke procedure waarin een moeder een beschuldiging van huiselijk geweld heeft gefabriceerd om tegen te houden dat de vader contact heeft met zijn kind. In dat geval werd de beschuldiging dat vader het kind had misbruikt ook door de rechtbank verworpen, hetgeen de rechter, de edelachtbare Munby, ertoe bracht om een openhartige aanval te lanceren op de manier waarop het familierechtsysteem geschillen over kinderen regelt. De vader werd gedwongen om zijn vijf-jaar-lange juridische strijd om toegang tot zijn zeven-jaar-oude dochter onverrichterzake op te geven na 43 rechtbankzittingen, die door 16 rechters werden voorgezeten.

 
Peter Tromp
Pedagoog, Vader Kennis Centrum

Every child needs both parents
 

 

     

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Legal system is failing fathers, says judge

Daily Telegraph 02 April 2004

Mothers who refuse access should be jailed says judge

 

 

One of the country's most senior family judges launched a blistering attack on the legal system yesterday for failing divorced and separated fathers.

"One of the country's most senior family judges launched a blistering attack on the legal system yesterday for failing divorced and separated fathers," the Daily Telegraph reported on 2nd April.

Mr Justice Munby, who sits in the Family Division of the High Court, went public with his judgment following a private hearing, because judges needed to "face up honestly" to the failings of the system. In the case concerned, the father had endured 43 hearings before 16 different judges over five years.

This is the most powerfully worded critique of the Family Courts to come from a senior judge, and made headlines in several national daily newspapers: in addition to The Daily Telegraph, it was reported on the front page of The Times, page two of The Guardian, as well as in The Sun, the Daily Mirror, and some editions of the Daily Mail. It was also a headline item on BBC News Online.

As well as blasting the courts for "scandalous" delays and mismanagement of cases, suggesting that the way courts deal with contact applications might even breach the European convention on human rights, he also called for short jail terms for mothers who persistently flout contact orders.

Significantly, the judge also noted the need for the system to take account of public opinion over its failings. He feared that the number of fathers who had justifiable grievance was "too many for comfort".


 

One of the country's most senior family judges launched a blistering attack on the legal system yesterday for failing divorced and separated fathers.

Mr Justice Munby said he felt "ashamed" after dealing with a man who had fought unsuccessfully for five years to see his daughter, and he argued that mothers who repeatedly defied court rulings on access should be jailed.

"A wholly deserving father left my court in tears having been driven to abandon his battle for contact with his seven-year-old daughter," the judge told the Family Division of the High Court in London.

"From the father's perspective, the last two years of litigation have been an exercise in absolute futility. It is shaming to have to say it, but I agree with his view. I feel desperately sorry for him. I am very sad the system is as it is."

Mr Justice Munby's comments come at a time of growing protests against the decisions of the family courts in favour of the mother.

Last year David Chick, 37, spent six days dressed as Spider-Man on a 100ft crane near Tower Bridge in London to protest over access rights to his daughter. He was a runner-up in a Channel 4 viewers' poll for the most significant political figure of the year.

Well-known fathers, including Bob Geldof and the Prince of Wales, have also criticised the system for being weighted against fathers.

Geldof, who was involved in a protracted custody battle with his ex-wife, the late Paula Yates, said: "God bless Mr Justice Munby. The law itself is the problem and the system that implements that primary injustice compounds it."

In an attempt to defuse the situation, the Government has introduced pilot projects based on mediation between parents, but fathers' groups say they are too little, too late. They point out that 40 per cent of divorced fathers lose contact with their children after just two years. The same percentage of mothers admit to "thwarting contact" between children and their fathers.

Mr Justice Munby, 55, who has a son and a daughter, said a lack of resources and "scandalous" court delays were major problems.

But he also regarded the legal process as "adversarial" and counter-productive because it focused on the arguments of the parents, not the child. "There is much wrong with our system and the time has come for us to recognise that [or] risk forfeiting public confidence," he said.

In the particular case of the father and his daughter, Mr Justice Munby focused on the system's failure to prevent the mother from ignoring contact arrangements.

Among the many excuses put forward by the mother was that the child, known only as D, was frightened by the father's chastisement of her, that D was forcibly fed by him and that he threatened not to return her after contact.

"All those allegations, I emphasise, were groundless. Conspicuously absent, also, are any judicial findings supporting the mother's allegations of domestic violence."

The parents separated when their daughter was two, with the father allowed to see her every Saturday. But the mother attempted to "sabotage" contact and was in contempt of court. On one occasion she was jailed for two weeks for a "flagrant breach of court orders".

Matters came to a head in December 2001, the last time the father saw his daughter, when he lost his temper with the child's mother. "The father behaved most foolishly. But the mother needs to ask herself why," said Mr Justice Munby.

"The plain answer is that it was her constant sabotage of contact that goaded him beyond endurance.

"What is this father supposed to do? Just walk away from his daughter in the faint hope that perhaps if he does not press for contact something will happen? Surely not.

"Is he to be criticised for continuing to invoke what thus far has proved to be the wholly inadequate assistance of the court? Certainly not. He would, in my judgment, be fully justified if he believed as a responsible and loving father that the time for appeasing the mother had come to an end."

The case had spent nearly five years in the courts. There were 43 hearings conducted by 16 different judges and more than 950 pages of evidence.

Mr Justice Munby said that where a mother thwarted contact on a Saturday, she should be ordered to attend court on the Monday and, if she did not, she should be arrested. She could be told that if she thwarted contact again, she would be jailed for up to three days.

While committal was "the remedy of last resort", it might "achieve the necessary coercive effect without significantly impairing a mother's ability to look after her children".

Matt O'Connor, the founder of Fathers 4 Justice, said: "Lord Justice Munby's comments are highly significant. There seems to be a sea change in the way family law is being perceived at the moment."

John Baker, of Families Need Fathers, said: "Justice Munby is absolutely spot on. Making allegations is risk free for the person making them. There should be sanctions when they are proved unfounded. In other sections of the law it would be seen as perjury.

"Time that is lost [between father and child] should be seen as a debt to the child and paid back in new contact arrangements."

A spokesman for the Lord Chancellor's Department said: "In terms of contact orders, the Government is aware of the issues but is wary of imprisoning or fining a mother who deprives a child of contact with their father."

He said fresh proposals to help fathers would be announced this summer.

 

  

     

The Sun
03/04/04
Martin Phillips

Vow on the rights of dads

FATHERS fighting for access to their children were on Friday promised a fairer deal.

In a victory for The Sun's Justice For Dads campaign, Family Justice Minister Lord Filkin vowed action this summer to put right a system which sees four in ten dads lose contact with children after a family break-up.

The Government was stung on Thursday when senior family judge Mr Justice Munby said he felt "ashamed" after dealing with a man who had fought unsuccessfully for five years to see his daughter.

The judge argued that mothers who repeatedly defied court rulings on access should be jailed.

The Government has plans to encourage parents to go to mediation rather than court.

Lord Filkin told The Sun the Government had run a risk by announcing the scheme before all the

proposals were finalised.

He said he accepted Mr Justice Munby's criticisms of the courts' impotence when mothers defy court contact orders.

And he said: "The system does not work well in some cases.

"We have to find a way so that people can't opt out and we will. We need to make changes from beginning to end."

 

 

     

 

 

New laws to end child custody wars.

The Guardian 03 April 2004

Author:  Clare Dyer, Legal Correspondent

Divorcing parents may be forced into mediation 

Divorcing parents will be diverted from court and helped to resolve their own child contact disputes, with generous parenting time for both, under a radical overhaul of the failing family justice system.

A green paper in June or July will outline proposals for parents to be taught how to put aside their own anger, focus on the children's best interests, and negotiate a post-separation parenting plan.

A national helpline open day and night could help parents needing advice on how to make contact work.  

The announcement comes a day after a high court family division judge, Mr Justice Munby, delivered a blistering attack on the system which saw a father leave his court in tears after being driven to end a five-year battle to see his daughter, which had involved 43 court hearings. Lord Filkin, the family justice minister in the department of constitutional affairs, yesterday promised a green paper before parliament's summer recess would set out a better system. 

Pilot projects in London, Brighton and Sunderland to try out "early intervention" in contact disputes before they reach court are now expected to require parents to go to mediation, instead of the original proposal to "encourage" mediation unveiled this month.

Fathers' groups had predicted that they would be doomed to failure because mothers who were determined to deny fathers contact would not agree to mediate. 

Lord Filkin said the government's starting point was that children did not want "to be involved in the middle of some ghastly fight", adding: "We also are pretty clear that courts are not the best places to get people to change their behaviour."

Although contact time would vary depending on the circumstances, there would be "clear expectations" that both parents would have the time to form a meaningful relationship with the child. That could mean agreeing US-style parenting plans, setting out weekly access. 

"We would be looking at a range of ways of trying to help parents shift their behaviour, focus on the interests of the child, get an understanding of how to go about negotiating with their former partner," he said. The term "parenting classes" was a turn-off, he added, but parental education of some kind was necessary.  Lord Filkin said the intention was to "bear down on the most intractable cases". There would be a range of court sanctions for parents who flouted court orders.  The minister said most of the changes envisaged would not need legislation.

John Baker of Families Need Fathers said: "We would welcome an end to the adversarial system and an attempt to deliver the best for the children."

  

     

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